Nylan (nylan) wrote in the_search,

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Something that has always confused me a bit about friendships.  Why do some people seem so concerned with placing blame?  Who cares if you're mad at me or if I'm mad at you.  Who cares whose "fault" it is?  Unless you're wanting to feel justified in ceasing to be someone's friend, you either work to remedy the situation or risk losing the friendship.  Even if it's the other person's fault.  Friendships aren't about placing blame.  No one is ever truly blameless.  If there's a problem within the friendship you either try to fix it, or you don't.  If you value the friendship enough to put up with the hardship, you try to fix it.  If you don't think the friendship is worth the hardship, you risk the friendship to try to get your friend to change.  Usually there's some middle ground (yay compromise), but yeah.  In the end, does it really matter whose "fault" it was?
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